Here’s something to think about if you want to have a closer relationship with your significant other! THANKS goes to JAFREE OZWALD!!
1. Uncover Your Ego’s Perceived Loss: Each time you find yourself getting upset and wanting to blame your partner, look deep inside and ask yourself, “What is it that my ego perceives it has lost, and wants to try to get back by blaming?” There are hundreds of perceived losses that include loss of freedom, loss of security, loss of connection, loss of power, loss of respect, loss of peace, loss of love, etc… For instance, let’s imagine that your partner forgets your birthday, and does not buy you a gift. Your ego may then interpret this failure as “he doesn’t truly love me”, creating a sense of loss of love. When your mind creates this story, you may blame your partner for your feelings, causing even more distance in the relationship.
2. Get out your Story and into Truth:The creation of stories by the mind is what creates the illusion of fear and loss. Stories arise when the mind attached a perceived meaning onto an experience. With this meaning comes a whole slew of thoughts, emotions, misunderstandings, expectations, etc… For instance, in the above illustration the meaning that was attached to the missed birthday was that your partner didn’t love you. A story going on in your head can be tricky to detect. The easiest way to detect a story is asking yourself, “Can I be 100% certain and bet my life on it that THIS is absolutely true.” Perhaps 99 times out of 100 you’ll see it’s just a story with a strong emotion attached to it. When you move closer to the truth, there is simply the fact that something happened, it has no meaning attached to it, and that’s all. No more and no less. The better you get at seeing the story and able to examine what happened in a more factual way, you can consciously stay away from the ego’s favorite game of living in judgment, blame, victim and story-telling.
3. Find the Perfection of What Is: Anytime you are faced with judgment, resistance, fear, betrayal or any challenge in a relationship, just start with asking your highest self this simple question. “How is this circumstance perfect for my highest growth and evolution?” This kind of enquiry will naturally allow you to uncover the perfection that is hidden beneath the mind. As you ask this question, your mind will begin to relax, open and see the perfection that was always there. The more you can see this perfection, the wider your heart opens, and the easier it’s for you to connect with your beloved on the deepest most intimate levels. You’ll see how much your partner truly cares for you when the desire to blame them falls away. What is left when there is no one to blame is this deep loving connection where you are truly meeting each other and fully accepting all facets of one another. In this embrace and acceptance is found a profound unconditional love for your partner and for yourself.
A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret
From The Secret Daily Teachings
Remember to remember means remember to be aware. Remember to be aware in this moment right now. Being aware is seeing everything around you, hearing everything around you, feeling everything around you, and being completely focused on what you are doing right now.
Most people bring what they do not want because they are not aware that they are listening to the thoughts in their heads about the past and the future. They are not even aware that they are being hypnotized by those thoughts, and are therefore living their life unconsciously.
When you remember to be aware, you are aware immediately. You just have to remember to remember!
“If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.” ~Mother Theresa
I hope that this will help someone who is going some kind of betrayal or whatever is going on in your life. Thank you again to Jafree Ozwald
1. Recognize your Attachment to your Story –
When you hold onto a grudge, you are actually holding onto the story about what happened along with heavy feelings attached to your story. When you fully feel those heavy feelings that arise when you think about your story, you then can move through them and underneath them. Be curious about what is there underneath your feelings, as it will be something you never thought of before. Notice how you played your part in the drama and take responsibility for the role you stepped into. When you understand what the “pay-off” of benefit you received by playing this role, no matter how horrible it was, you can then let go of the pattern completely.
2. Release those Repressed Feelings –
When someone mistreat or hurts us, we may either express this pain or repress it. If you were taught to repress your feelings, put on a brave face, and go on with our life, you’ll have many heavy feelings inside you rotting away at your core. All repressed feelings fester deep inside of us, and cause us to continue to carry a burden about life, relationships, people and the world. The first step in forgiving is letting go of these heavy feelings, allowing them to turn into lighter feelings. There are many techniques that can help you release pent-up emotions from the past. One simple way you can do this on your own is emotional release journaling. Just write about the past event without censoring it. Write from your most emotional place and keep writing until you have emptied everything out. Do not read it once you have finished. Wait a few days or weeks before you read it. You can burn what you have journaled and proclaim out-loud “I let this go”. If your repressed emotions are very strong or feel overwhelming, it may be best to get the support of a trained professional to help you let them go.
3. Continuously Choose Forgiveness –
In every moment, you have the opportunity to choose forgiveness. Once you release that holding onto the past only harms you, you can consciously choose to let it go instead of returning to resentment. Choosing forgiveness is a constant process. This means you will always choose to feel feelings of lightness, freedom and healing from the past event. Once you have decided to forgive someone, visualize the person is in front of you, and say it out loud to them, “I forgive you completely for what happened. I love you and thank you for the lesson. Please forgive me for what I’ve done.” Notice how it feels just reading this proclamation in your body. By stating this message out loud you create an instant energetic shift in your body. The person can be on the phone, in the room or simply there in your mind. If you do this in your mind, the secret is that it must FEEL real to you. You will be amazed out how this declaration starts opening up your entire world in ways you never dreamed were possible. You’ll soon see how it sparks the manifestation of more positive and desired experiences into your life.
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